It has been a minute since the last blog but there is something that needs to be discussed. Blended families....there is nothing wrong with blended families. When a man loves a woman and she has children, a real man will love her and her children and treat them like they're his own. The same should be given to the man who has children but somehow I find that it is a struggle for the same treatment to be shared. When a man gives himself to love someone, via a mother and or her children, he does for them as he does for his own. What I found to be an issue is often times the man can't be the father that he is suppose to be without appearing like he is the bad guy. As much as we honor our women, a woman can't teach a boy how to become a man. When a man want to teach a boy the things about manhood, via responsibility, respect, integrity and good manners, not to mention being a hard worker, all of the things that comes with that should be given without recourse. If the child does something that is wrong, as their father we are to discipline and correct them. Our women must realize that if we as men don't guide them in the right direction, the streets will pull them in the wrong direction. It is better for us to get them in order rather then the streets because our intentions are not to inflict hurt on them but to impress tough love upon them so that the understand that we love them as the streets don't care about them.
Respect is something that will take you a long way but if you can't respect authority you can't expect to have very much success in your life. We must teach our young men/boys to respect our women starting with their mothers. Mothers are the ones that carried our seed and went through hours of pain while giving birth. Our job is to be the enforcer and help ease the stress placed upon the mothers. Women there are some real men out here is the world who wants to help but you must stop giving us only conditional parenthood and allow us to father unconditionally. If we love you as we say we do, we will do right by you and your children. To all of my brotha's who are standing in and fulfilling the role of a father to someone, God blessed you with the love to give and the correction to give. Don't be discouraged when things get in the way of you being an effective father, just keep being you and keep loving and trusting God. We often times don't feel respected or appreciated but remember, God knows all and sees all. Be you and continue to allow the God in you to stand out because the seeds that you have sown will one day produce a great harvest. You may never hear that you are loved, honored and or appreciated but remember the reason why you are you. Be encouraged all of my brotha's who may be going through something like this, stay strong and keep the faith. When it's from the heart, God will honor that.
Please chime in and help shed some light on this situation...something that's in your heart may help someone else going through...
In God's Love.....Blessings
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