Respected or Disrespected...Which One Do You Feel

Fella's, it's been a long time since I have taken the time to write something to enlighten you and or help encourage you.  My topic for this time of the season is Do you feel respected by those who say they love you or do you feel disrespected by those that say they love you in almost every area of your lives with them.

The bible tells us that when a man finds a wife, he find himself a good thing.  What makes her a good thing.  Is it that she can finish up your sentences, or maybe she knows what you want even before you make your request known, maybe it's her knowing when your back hurts and she gives you that woman's touch without you asking.  Well what ever makes her your good thing is not complete without her respect for you as not just a man but also as her husband.

Women feel special when their man protects them from the things that are set out to hurt them.  We as warriors do our job by not letting people disrespect them no matter who they are.  We want them to know that no matter what, we have their backs.  But tell me this one thing.  Is it respect or disrespect when the one that you love allows those who are close to them to do whatever, say whatever and treat you whatever kind of way without protecting you?  Would it be disrespect if as a man feeling disrespected that we pull a nutty and began going off on folks?  Does a man deserve to have the same kind of honor and respect as he gives to his woman?  I am just talking about respect and disrespect.

Most men don't have must patience when it comes to others tip toeing through their relationship sprinkling that spoiled fertilizer that has no strength to grow nothing put division between you and your mate...is a man wrong if he gets upset and wants to lash out?  Is it respectful or disrespectful for you mate to give conditional protection on your behalf as long as it not from someone who means a lot to them...when the bible says that after that man finds that good thing that he is to leave from his mother and father and cleave to his wife but I do believe that statement was meant for both man and woman...So what are the grounds for respect and what are the pictures of disrespect?  Is it disrespectful if a person does not feel like they are respected in their own home and at times feels better when they are not home that when they are home?

Is communication a two way street or has it been changed to one way only?  Is feeling disrespected something that should go unspoken or should the one who you love be made aware of it?  These are question that most people have mostly men....What are the terms of respect and what are the boundaries to disrespect?  Don't allow these question to cause you to ponder upon this to much but make sure that you understand where you stand in someone's life so that you can identify if it's respectful or disrespectful....a man feeling disrespected is worse then a bear that has not eaten in a while.   To all of my fella's if no one wants to respect you, don't you neglect respecting yourself.  Letz Keep It Real...itz the only way...one love beloved.  Stay on the battle field for the Lord cause He will never leaving you feeling disrespected...

A Man That Will

Hello to all of my dear brother in Christ.  Let's talk for just a few minutes.  We are living in some tough times right now and the way we handle things will determine just how we will come through them.  During a time when jobs are hard to come by, money appears to be foreign to us, bills seem to double and everyone has a need that needs to be met, we as men are looked upon for answers to ease the minds of our families.  We often times don't have the answers but when we are in Christ Jesus, we take it to the throne of grace and leave it in the hands of the Lord.  In our struggle, God is looking for men who will pray more, men who will stay in their word, men who will allow God to encourage them that they my encourage others, men who will trust in the Lord with all of their heart and lean not into their own understanding but in all of their ways acknowledge Him and He will direct their path (Prov. 3:5-6), men who will push past their own ability and into the presence of God so that in Him you can be strong, men who will continue to hold on to God's unchanging hand, men who will allow God to have His way no matter what you must sacrifice and men who will lead their families in the path of righteousness, showing their sons how to stand in the midst of adversity and being strong even when you want to throw in the towel.  God is still on the throne and He is still in the blessing business.  There is no problem to big or to small for God to solve.  Don't let your current situation cause trouble in your home.  Stand and chase the enemy out of your home and away from your circumstance.  We are often tried and tested but in God we will past the test and receive our promotion.  God did not bring us this far to leave us or forsake us.  Let's keep our eyes on Him and our outcome and not focus so much on the now.  "If we give our situation to the situator, we will find that our situation is already situated!"  God holds the answers and solutions to all of our problems and troubles.  Our job is to keep trusting Him, press toward the mark, don't doubt it out, shout it out, activate our faith and don't allow the enemy to see us sweat.  Remember, all things work together for the good of those who love the Lord (Romans 8:28).  The enemy will only mess with you when you are on the right track.  When you are doing what thus says the Lord, the enemy knows that you are a threat to his kingdom.  Rejoice anyway knowing that if God be for you, who can be against you (Romans 8:31)?  Be content where you are and listen to God and learn what He is teaching in your process.  Remember, the bigger the trial, the bigger the blessing after the trial....I am so glad that trouble don't last always.  God may not come when you want Him, but He is always right on time.  Be that man that will so that God can do just what He does best, love and takes great care of us.

Be blessed brotha's and know that I am standing and praying with and for all of us......

Just a thought and some encourage from the Desk of The Pastor.....Keeping It Real.....Man 2 Man.....

The Life Of A Blended Father

It has been a minute since the last blog but there is something that needs to be discussed.  Blended families....there is nothing wrong with blended families.  When a man loves a woman and she has children, a real man will love her and her children and treat them like they're his own.  The same should be given to the man who has children but somehow I find that it is a struggle for the same treatment to be shared.  When a man gives himself to love someone, via a mother and or her children, he does for them as he does for his own.  What I found to be an issue is often times the man can't be the father that he is suppose to be without appearing like he is the bad guy.  As much as we honor our women, a woman can't teach a boy how to become a man.  When a man want to teach a boy the things about manhood, via responsibility, respect, integrity and good manners, not to mention being a hard worker, all of the things that comes with that should be given without recourse.  If the child does something that is wrong, as their father we are to discipline and correct them.  Our women must realize that if we as men don't guide them in the right direction, the streets will pull them in the wrong direction.  It is better for us to get them in order rather then the streets because our intentions are not to inflict hurt on them but to impress tough love upon them so that the understand that we love them as the streets don't care about them.

Respect is something that will take you a long way but if you can't respect authority you can't expect to have very much success in your life.  We must teach our young men/boys to respect our women starting with their mothers.  Mothers are the ones that carried our seed and went through hours of pain while giving birth.  Our job is to be the enforcer and help ease the stress placed upon the mothers.  Women there are some real men out here is the world who wants to help but you must stop giving us only conditional parenthood and allow us to father unconditionally.  If we love you as we say we do, we will do right by you and your children.  To all of my brotha's who are standing in and fulfilling the role of a father to someone, God blessed you with the love to give and the correction to give.  Don't be discouraged when things get in the way of you being an effective father, just keep being you and keep loving and trusting God.  We often times don't feel respected or appreciated but remember, God knows all and sees all.  Be you and continue to allow the God in you to stand out because the seeds that you have sown will one day produce a great harvest.  You may never hear that you are loved, honored and or appreciated but remember the reason why you are you.  Be encouraged all of my brotha's who may be going through something like this, stay strong and keep the faith.  When it's from the heart, God will honor that.

Please chime in and help shed some light on this situation...something that's in your heart may help someone else going through...

In God's Love.....Blessings

Will The Real Dads Please Stand Up

Amazing how many children are in the world that have no connection with their fathers. Its also amazing that there are men who have never planted the seed to produce a child but they father children. Its amazing how a man can take care of a child that is not biologically his but he loves them just the same....what gets me the most is when a woman has an issue with a man she does not
consider how the children feel when she take them away from him because she cant control him. A real man stands for his kids no matter what. A real man knows that he sets a good example for his children and gives them unconditional love that stands even through the madness of a woman scorned. Dont get me wrong our women or wonderful but let a real father be just that a real father. A real father does what he has to for his children. A real father will keep being there for his children no matter what anybody says or how they try to get in their way. A real father has a heart for his children and loves them when they're right or wrong.  Real fathers we may not recieve the credit that we deserve but God sees and He knows and He is the one that provides the peace and the blessings. Keep standing keep loving keep providing our kids need us. For the women who are standing in for the missing fathers u keep on until God sends that man to be there. Allow your children to be around father figures that can and will love them. Shout outs to all you dads. To Poppa Ford big shouts to

you for being a father to many including me.

Happy Fathers Day fathers. Will The Real Fathers Please Stand Up

To all of my real men who are dealing with some issues that seem to be just a little bit to much. I have created this page so that we can deal with the issues that real Christian men face daily.  I am a Pastor and a Christian Counselor with a BA Degree in Christian Counseling.  As men we often keep things to ourselves because folks tend to judge us for every little thing.  Well fellas, here we can talk, keeping it real knowing that it's us asking for advice, giving advice/encouragement that is revalint to your issue in a spiritual and real manner.  Keeping it real is just what it is, we will keep it real so that you can be better equipped to deal with your issues with God leading the way.  Be looking for the next blog as it will come forth in just a few days and Man 2 Man.....Letz Keep It Real......Real Men.....Real Talk.



Blessings...........
Pastor Nichols